While you may feel a deep sense of relief when you talk about the challenges you face with a friend or counselor, it's sometimes hard to know how to put it all into context and live differently. One of the best things about coaching is that it helps you do this. Through my own personal experiences with stress and anxiety, and my work with clients from all walks of life, I've developed three guiding principles you can use to explore the different puzzle pieces in your life and learn how to move through your challenges in the ways that make the most sense for you.
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The Adversity Cycle™
Uncovering wisdom through adversity involves moving through six unique stages that naturally flow from one to the next. Most of us have been through this cycle at least a few times in our life, whether we realize it or not. If you've ever experienced a major challenge and reached a point where you were grateful for what you learned from it (even if you'd rather not go through it again), you know what I mean.
Every time you complete the Adversity Cycle™, you elevate your understanding of yourself and the world around you in an ever upward spiral of wisdom. You will also:
- Find clarity
- Make peace with uncertainty
- Get more comfortable with conflict
- Realize what you really want
- See the world from surprising points of view; and
- Discover the fulfillment that comes from sharing your hard-earned wisdom with other people going through similar challenges.
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The journey begins when you recognize that your perspectives and beliefs directly influence how you experience every aspect of your life. Notice the difference between the voice of your heart and the feedback of your "inner critic". Discover what you truly value. Acknowledge the stressful beliefs you hold about yourself and your life circumstances.
The Life Layer Awareness Model™
Most of us don't move smoothly through each stage of the Adversity Cycle™, especially when facing brand new challenges. Instead, we tend to spend most our time focusing on our circumstances, thoughts, and feelings.
If you feel stuck, it's important to remember there are deeper layers to explore. It's also essential that you become aware of your fears, reality filters (assumptions, judgments, and expectations), and the voice of your inner critic.
Which layer of your life are you currently living in?
A sustainable shift in your mindset and habits can only occur by exploring your underlying perspectives and inner-most core. In fact, one of the very first steps I take together with a client when we enter into a coaching partnership is to complete a Core Values Assessment.
The Life Layer Awareness Model™ can help you move more quickly and completely through each stage of the Adversity Cycle™. These two powerful frameworks compliment and strengthen each other in any set of circumstances you may face.
The Wholeness Framework™
Living a whole life involves building a strong foundation of body, mind, and spirit, cultivating the emotional resilience to navigate challenges, and seeking opportunities to connect with the wider world. Through my work with Saint Mary's College in Notre Dame, Indiana, I've developed an exciting new framework that can empower people of all ages to find clarity and peace of mind, even in the midst of uncertainty.
The Wholeness Framework™ integrates all the researched-based aspects of human flourishing with the three most important aspects of emotional resilience I've uncovered through my work with my clients and students.
No one part of this framework is more important than another and none of them stand alone.
Each of the nine domains are interconnected in such a way that by strategically focusing on just one of them, you can make a tangible difference in all the others areas. However, if any one domain is ignored, it can also have a negative impact on every other aspect of your life.
Used in conjunction with the Adversity Cycle™ and Life Layer Awareness Model™, the Wholeness Framework™ can help you set clear goals and then actually make tangible progress that will ripple out across all the different aspects of your life.