Feeling paralyzed by the pursuit of a perfect life?
The perfect job. The perfect place. That perfect person with whom to share it all. Although your idea of the perfect life may be different than someone else's, your underlying motivation is likely the same – most of us view perfection as the path to success and happiness.
But what do we do when our achievements don't make us successful or happy? And what if the version of perfection we desire ultimately proves impossible to attain? Worse yet, how would we feel if our carefully crafted life suddenly fell apart?
As a life coach, I’ve seen time and time again what happens when selfless perfectionists suffer from Perfection Paralysis. You may be a selfless perfectionist if you:
- Are empathetic to the emotions and experiences of the people around you;
- Find it easier to put the needs of others first;
- Hold yourself to very high expectations, often to the point of perfection; and
- Have a tendency to be extremely self-critical when you don't meet expectations.
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When caught up in Perfection Paralysis, we can waste a tremendous amount of energy trying to fix everything around us and easily end up feeling overwhelmed by circumstances we can't control. This leads to fear of uncertainty and indecisiveness, until we finally feel like we have no choice, but to make another major change...and then we repeat the cycle all over again.
It's an exhausting way to live.
In order to change this pattern, you're going to need a radical new perspective of your reality. You also need wisdom. Although you can certainly receive it from individuals you may consider to be much wiser and braver than yourself, I want you to know this very same wisdom already exists inside of you. You'll find it when you embark on the journey of the Courageous Embrace...
The Courageous Embrace...
The Courageous Embrace offers insightful new perspectives to help you make peace with uncertainty in your daily life.
I discovered the path in hindsight after figuring out how to manage my anxiety, and it now serves as the foundation of my coaching practice to hep my clients navigate their own struggles more effectively. Each step of the journey is supported by a variety of processes, strategies, and resources. I also encourage you to trust your intuition and incorporate your own practices to create the toolkit that's just right for you!
Please note: completely avoiding stress and anxiety is not the ultimate goal of the Courageous Embrace. Anytime you face new challenges, these uncomfortable emotions are bound to arise. When you understand their purpose within the context of your life, they actually serve to guide you toward greater authenticity and fulfillment. As you become more comfortable with uncertainty, your feelings of stress and anxiety will naturally decrease over time.
Although this journey is deeply rooted in the unifying concepts of many great spiritual teachers and philosophers throughout history, no belief in any particular religion or dogma is necessary. Your own life experiences will serve as the key to unlocking the wisdom hidden inside you.
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The journey begins when you recognize that your perspectives and beliefs directly influence how you experience every aspect of your life. Notice the difference between the voice of your heart and the feedback of your "inner critic". Discover what you truly value. Acknowledge the stressful beliefs you hold about yourself and your life circumstances.
The Next Steps...
If you're ready to find your wisdom and trust yourself again, I offer a variety of resources to help you along the way...