You are amazing.
Yes, you. The one who's never been able to see your own inner brilliance shining just beyond all your fears and worries. Any time someone gives you a compliment about it you squirm.
If they only knew.
That you're just barely getting by. Wondering how you’re going to make it through another day. That you don't have a clue about how you're going to fix your own problems, let alone everyone else's.
Of course, you see this same brilliance all around you in the people you love and admire (and in the ones you secretly envy). If only you could be more like them then things would be better. Then you might actually deserve all those compliments.
I may not know you personally, but I can guarantee you of this:
You embody the same tremendous gifts and talents that you see in the inspiring people you respect and admire.
How is this possible? Because you wouldn't be able to recognize those traits if you didn't already have them inside yourself. But my job isn't to try and convince you of all this – my purpose in life, the reason I was put on the planet, is to help you discover this truth for yourself...
How would your life be different if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt exactly how amazing you are?
Maybe you'd stop chasing everyone else's idea of perfect, and start redefining it on your own terms. Perhaps you'd start clearing up your misunderstandings and false beliefs, and stop wasting all your energy trying to fix what was never actually broken.
Living life from these new perspectives, it's possible you might even stop looking for success in the future and finally start discovering authentic fulfillment. Every. Single. Day.
Welcome to your Ever Present Life.
What's holding you back?
If you tend to judge yourself according to extremely high standards, you may find it hard to believe that you (or your current circumstances) are anywhere even close to perfect right now. This relentless pursuit of perfection often leads to overwhelming stress and anxiety, especially for people who identify with the Four Traits of Selfless Perfectionism. Consider the following questions:
- Do you naturally pick up on the emotions of the people around you?
- Is it easier to put their needs ahead of your own?
- Do you also hold yourself to high expectations?
- And are you often your own worst critic?
If you said "yes" to all the above, you may be a selfless perfectionist. Want to be sure? Take this quiz to find out!
Being a selfless perfectionist isn't a bad thing. And it certainly doesn't mean you have to shoulder these stressful, anxiety-producing burdens for the rest of your life. Although it's impossible (and totally counterproductive) to change who you are, it is entirely possible to change how you see yourself...
How do I know this? Because I'm a selfless perfectionist, too, and once I found the courage to confront my fears about these aspects of myself, I learned an unexpected and extremely important lesson. Empathy, selflessness, perfectionism, and self-criticism aren’t burdens – they’re actually superpowers! When you finally see them in this new light, you'll also see yourself and the world around you with profound new clarity.
"This is an end toward which we could strive – to be the still axis within the revolving wheel of relationships, obligations, and activities."
~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea
It's time for a new perspective...
What if none of the circumstances of your life had to change in order for everything to look and feel completely different?
Uncertainty may be a fact of life, but unmanageable stress and anxiety don't have to be. While you may not be able to get rid of any of the challenges you face, the one thing you can control in every moment is your perspective. My methods can empower you to:
- Reduce stress and anxiety
- Experience increased daily mindfulness
- Identify your essential core values
- Harness your gifts of selfless perfectionism
- Build an unshakable foundation of self-trust
- Create healthy boundaries
- Reconnect to your self-worth; and
- Share your gifts with the world
If you're ready, then I invite you to step onto the path of the Fulfillment Cycle...
Becky has helped me understand and work through my anxiety more thoroughly and efficiently than any other person, book, or method I've tried.
~ Gloria, passionate educator & truth seeker
Becky inspires me to live my best life, with integrity and courage and love.
~ Katie, courageous parent & soulful connector